- Set aside time. Be Big and make yourself a list of things that make you happy when you're expressing your inner-you. Here is a list of common things that Adult littles have a tendency to enjoy:
- Coloring Books (Amount: 3-4)
- Crayons, Colored Pencils, Markers (Amount: 2+ sets)
- Teddy bears or other stuffed animals (Amount: 1+)
- Dolls (cabbage patch, barbie, etc) (Amount: 1+)
- Soft blankets (Amount: 1-3)
- special drinking cups (Amount: 1-4)
- Bubble bath (Amount: 2+ different kinds/scents)
- Movies (Disney, Pixar, DreamWorks Animation, etc) (Amount: 10+)
- Fluffy cozy socks (Amount: 4+)
- Storybooks (with pictures) (Amount: 4+)
- Audio files and music (Suggestions: The Big Little Podcast, little songs, nursery rhymes on tape, etc)
- A special bracelet, necklace, or keychain for when you're feeling anxious in a Big or Adult situation and need discreet comfort.
- Invest in yourself. Using the list you've created, make a beginning purchase of baby/little necessities. These are things that are generally reusable or for multiple littlespace time uses so they are considered a personal investment. Set yourself a spending limit and go at it this one time! (Many little items can be purchased very cheaply from places like the Dollar Tree so keep that in mind with your budget.)
- Develop a comforting routine. It's important to get into a routine that gives you structure. Schedule out a weekly routine where you take care of both little and big needs each day. Write it out and create your daily schedule. Schedules should include things like diapering needs (if any), scheduled bath time, and bedtime routines.
- Keep a chart. Little ones need help remembering things--even routine. Develop a chart with weekly tasks and goals to hit. For example, every day at 9:00PM before bedtime you take a bath, but on Friday you take a special bubble bath to enjoy.
- Reward yourself for maintaining your schedule. Little ones need encouragement for keeping up with things. Here are some reward ideas:
- Little's Lunch - bad-for-you foods for lunch. Cereal? Corndogs? Hotdogs? Pizza? One meal only, not all day! (up to once every 3 weeks)
- Special bubble bath time - special fizzies or extra bubbly bubbles (up to once a week)
- Special snack - bad-for-you snacktime. Ice cream? A big bowl of fruit? Brownies? (up to once a week)
- Stickers - Special stickers bought specifically for this purpose. Sparkly, shiney, favorite characters. (up to 3 times a week)
- Movie Marathon - Special time set aside to watch 2+ littles movies in a row.
- Keep in contact with others who accept you. It's easy to slip into a routine where you drift away from others and become secluded. Don't let this happen to you. Reach out and make friends who have similiar interests. Depression is easy to overtake you if you're not interacting with others. Remember, all littles and babies love to hang around with like-minded little and baby friends so that they can chitter chatter and share toys.
- Develop an online persona. It's okay to reflect your inner-you online in safe communities like Littlespace Online. It will help you keep in contact with the outside world and make friends, which will help fight off depression and anxiety. Create an online account using a name that makes you happy and let yourself be you while maintaining your anonymity.
- Seek help when you need it. If you're hurting, physically, mentally, or emotionally, then it's important to reach out to someone for some help. This is why it's important to be a part of a community where you are yourself--so you can speak up and let other people know when you're not well. Everyone struggles with growing pains.
- Mental/Emotional help: 800-273-TALK (8255). The National Suicide Prevention Hotline has skilled, trained counselors who can help you work out mental and emotional issues if you're depressed and/or suicidal. They are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.
- Physical boo-boos: 866-433-6041 (option 7). This nurse line lets you get health care information 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. This line can help you decide what kind of care to seek--treat the condition at home, the need of a doctor, or if it calls for urgent or immediate care like an ER situation. If you have a life-threatening medical emergency always call 911 or your local emergency number.
Wednesday, May 9, 2018
Self Care for Littles
This comes to us from Littlespace Online and it's an incredible resource for not only littles, but it's also a great resource for anyone with depression or anxiety issues.